Often, I’ve been one to try and impress people with the pace of my conversation and my responses. I do this because of cinema: We all wish we could follow conversations as adeptly and quickly and with such concise wit and brevity as characters do in movies.  People talking in cinema is like soccer or …
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Life Imitating Art Imitating Life

Often, I’ve been one to try and impress people with the pace of my conversation and my responses.

I do this because of cinema: We all wish we could follow conversations as adeptly and quickly and with such concise wit and brevity as characters do in movies.  People talking in cinema is like soccer or hockey or basketball; people are at it rapid-fire, and many people feel privileged just to marvel at it happening.  Perhaps real life should be more like pool, or rock climbing, or golf: taking a moment, in turns, to size up the situation and think through your options mentally, before committing.

I need to slow down and think through a response before throwing it out there.  This may be a reason many people find my energy “too much”; perhaps I’m hustling them along in a conversation too quickly.  In my case, I thankfully don’t say regrettable things too often, but I do often toss a lame pun or ironic gag that, really, isn’t worth repeating.  And I do this lest the listener(s) think I’m too slow in responding.